Friday, July 18, 2014

Transgender Blog Challenge Day 28: Daily Boost

Today's question is not directly trans-related.  In fact, the rest of the questions aren't really that... deep.  Anyway:
What is something you have to do everyday or else you feel like your whole day is off if you don’t do it?

I had to think about this for a while and I thought "You know, there really isn't anything."  And then I realized that isn't true.  Also the reality is sexually oriented so if you have a problem with that...  turn back.

So a quick story.  Long ago--not to give any details--I wound up in a conversation with a bunch of people who read in a guy's file that he "masturbates daily."  And they were really freaked out by that, like they thought it was the most deviant possible thing because apparently they don't get out very much.  I tried to tell them "You know, this actually isn't that abnormal," but they kept insisting that masturbating once a day is excessive.

And, well, I had to roll my eyes.  I have a really difficult time even getting to sleep if I don't have an orgasm at least once a day, at night before I go to bed.  Often more than once, especially if I don't have to work.  So when I was unemployed for a long time I was probably doing it once in the morning and once at night.

This is the point where some trans-man-specific TERFs (and yes, they exist) will cry out about how testosterone has turned me into a disgusting sexual deviant, but the reality is that I've always been like this, ever since I stopped being ashamed of the idea.  When I was a kid I'd try finding ways around it, like somehow it was "OK" if I didn't use my hands.  Actually, when I was very young--maybe first grade to fourth grade--I did it multiple times a day without knowing what it even was.  So it wasn't the testosterone.

Anyway... I was going to say "use of technology" but that's really not accurate.  I have gone entire summers without the use of a cell phone or computer, and that's in recent memory.  It's still not something I prefer to let go, though.