Thursday, June 26, 2014

Transgender Blog Challenge Day 6: The First Person

Today's question is:
Who was the first person you came out to?

Here's the thing: I don't remember.  Is that weird?  My memory basically makes it out to be that one day I was in my dorm sketching manly self-portraits, the next I'm on the phone with my parents, but I know I'd already cut my hair and committed to transitioning for at least three weeks before my parents knew.

Here's what I do know:
  1. My boyfriend at the time was one of the first people I came out to, but probably not the first.
  2. I'd come out to a bunch of Internet friends, but I don't remember how I came out.
  3. I came out to my roommate right after I wrote my coming out letter to my parents.
  4. I came out to my parents before any other relatives.
The first non-relative time I remember really coming out was a man who was in my Anthropology methods class.  We were supposed to write ethnographies, and one of my classmates was going on about how he wanted to do his on the campus LGBT community but that he didn't know any members of the T who would talk.  So I came out to him through an email, and shortly after to the professor of the class just because she seemed like she'd understand.

I would have, had I not already gone through it, probably expected to remember these "firsts" much more vividly than I do, but those memories have decayed a lot.