Who was the first person you came out to?
Here's the thing: I don't remember. Is that weird? My memory basically makes it out to be that one day I was in my dorm sketching manly self-portraits, the next I'm on the phone with my parents, but I know I'd already cut my hair and committed to transitioning for at least three weeks before my parents knew.
Here's what I do know:
- My boyfriend at the time was one of the first people I came out to, but probably not the first.
- I'd come out to a bunch of Internet friends, but I don't remember how I came out.
- I came out to my roommate right after I wrote my coming out letter to my parents.
- I came out to my parents before any other relatives.
I would have, had I not already gone through it, probably expected to remember these "firsts" much more vividly than I do, but those memories have decayed a lot.